I recently had a conversation with a friend that was entertaining but also left me thinking about it more.....
In the conversation I told my friend that I belive all relationships are about power and control. While definately not conscious, we are making power and control decisions all the time. When you go out, who pays? When you choose what to do, who decides? There are an infinite number of little ways that the power/control dynamic gets played out.
Now my friend believes in "two souls meeting in the night," as I sarcastically summed it up for him. He could not subscribe to my theory. He belives that two people come together and when it's right things just work.
While I agree with him, I think it's because the power/control stuff flows naturally. She likes to decide what you two do together and you like that.....it feels natural. In some ways, it is the definition of the magic spark that happens between people. We describe it as fitting together or any number of other ways, but it is the dynamics of how the relationship works naturally.
Folks that participate in dominant/submissive relationships are really just being more honest about what happens between people than the rest of us. We dance around it and choose to believe in romantic notions of what happens between us.
